You can create an empowering context around anything, if you really want to.
Take the discrimination issue – they became pretty set in their rule, and denied us access to the Forum with Isabella. But rather than fight them on it (so that they resent my attendance even if I win), I worked with them.
Hubbster and I discovered something about ourselves – we really enjoy working with each other. When everyone else was saying “well, just let him go and you can go when Izzy is old enough”, we were saying “but we both value the experience equally – we want to attend together!”
We also determined that we feed off of each other in all aspects of professional development, especially with life changing things like the Landmark Forum. Neither of us would get the full benefit if we couldn’t discuss things later. And we would be resenting each other for not being able to participate together.
So Landmark is holding our deposit longer than they would for others, until Isabella is old enough to stay in childcare and we can attend together – which may work out even better, as Landmark is supposed to be coming closer to our own home soon. We may be able to send her to a family member for the day, and bring her home at night!
We have created an empowering context around the disappointment of not being able to attend in Vancouver by improving our future experience, continuing to work on ourselves now, and discovering new facets of our relationship in the meantime.
Take that forward into your lives, readers. You can create an empowering context around anything in your lives if you try!